The Human Sponge

In a legal foundations lecture, the lecturer asked a question along the lines of ‘do you think people want to be generally viewed as nice?’ And majority of students said no, which is the truth. Humans want to be perceived as tough or like they don’t care about whatever. To them, when a person is sensitive they are vulnerable or weak and usually they are the ones who people enjoy putting down because it simply makes them feel better about their insecurities. They do this because when those ‘vulnerable’ people are happy its foreign and incomprehensible to the ‘tough’ because well, they do not know what that is.

Being sensitive requires you to feel and absorb everything deeply like a sponge, being overly cautious and loving people as well as tolerating just about enough and still staying because you 'know' they love you despite the fact that they behave the way they do. You make up excuses for them like 'they do not want to be generally viewed as ‘nice’. Simple. Its like the ground we walk on. It feels the stomping of the feet and tyres on it everyday and it is still there, very willing and capable of taking it until God calls us back. It means putting people first and expecting the same in return and when you don’t get it back, the easiest decision is to not communicate, because it takes a lot of effort and responsibility. Instead, you walk away and cut them off, well lets say you do that, you sure as hell would cut everyone off, you would even cut off your family members because in reality we all in one way or another, make one another feel shit and terrible for showing an ounce of vulnerability. Well let me let you in on a little secret about vulnerability. Its the strongest single characteristic a person can possess. It makes you seem weak because you ‘take shit’ from people but you’re actually strong because you’re there to make them feel better about themsleves. You’re a healer and you do help, whether they tell you or not and in return you sort of help yourself. Being vulnerable also comes with the ability to get back up countless times and keep going. You never give up because whatever it is is too important to stop trying for, being there for a friend or chasing your dreams. You bounce back. You're unstoppable because though you replay every comment and situation in your mind, there's a force that keeps you going, there's a fire from within and you do not know where from but you know it keeps you pushing. People often feel like this ‘tough’ and ‘disrespectful’ persona comes with a lot of respect, but it doesn’t, it actually comes with fear and dislike. But respect is actually earned when you’re confident within yourself and your potential in whatever you want to do in life as well as being polite and relatable. Its earned not forcefully taken.

Now the other part of it. We allow people stay longer than they originally should. We need to let go of people who are only forcing themselves to care about us. It might seem like our lives will be over but that is when we become stronger and more independent, this fear is as a result of becoming dependent and attached to the creation and not the creator, God. Humans are not built to carry other people and all they come with for more than a certain period of time, thats not in our job description given by God. We can only do it for so long but we also need help from whoever we love enough to carry because in return we need that help, it is a two way therapeutic process. Only when we put our expectations in God will we be able to walk away from things and people that no longer give us happiness and peace. Aim to be peaceful, now this doesn’t mean comfortable because we have to learn to be uncomfortable to grow but we need to be peaceful in that uncomfortable state, morally and spiritually. Put ourselves first and live for ourselves and no it doesn’t mean to be selfish but to include yourself as part of the people you are selfless to, which should be everyone. We will attract the right people like a magnet and those are the people you should see the world with because they will push you to live your best life, not the ones you’re scared of letting go but know its time to. Begin the journey to self awareness.

“ It wont be easy. It will be difficult but this will be the year she finds herself, this will be the year she discovers the power and magic beneath her bones. This will be the year where she begins to walk away from anything that no longer deserves her presence”.

r.h. sin.

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